I know I've mentioned this in passing a couple of times, but here's a more complete update (in case you were wondering) ...
Our sitter has always rented a house in which to live and run her daycare business. In February, the house she was living in was sold with a possession date of April 1; however, despite much searching, she was unable to find a house to rent in the busing or walking area for our children's school (she had also been hoping to buy a house over the past year, but the prices rose quickly out of her reach -- which really sucks! I so wish she could own a house and gain some equity). In fact, she hadn't found any place to live by March 31 and was forced to put her belongings into storage and stay with a friend, who, amazingly, was willing to have our kids in her home too.
So she stayed there for a few days the first week of April, but then on the weekend was told that her friend's teenage daughters didn't want her there anymore. She had no choice but to go stay with her mother in a small apartment where she could not have our kids. Coincidentally, she had also hurt her leg and was unable to babysit during that second week of April. So the girls (including our niece) stayed with Neil and he took them to and from school (and also took Madeline and Georgia with him to do lunch supervision at school) during that week. Then, on the weekend, our sitter informed us that she finally found a place to live, but could not move in until May 1, and it's in Windsor Park. Certainly not a convenient location for us and not in the busing area for the girls' school.
At this point, you might think we would, or should, give up on her altogether, but no; we just couldn't. Not now anyway. We had already paid for April and could not ask for the money back; not under these circumstances. Plus, she has taken good care of our girls for six years, since Sophia was 14 months old (and since B was 9 months), and we are basically her only source of income right now. We could not pull the pin. Instead, we arranged for her to come to our house for the remaining two and a half weeks of April. It was the obvious thing to do, but not something we were terribly eager to do.
It's just that our house is not in a state where I'm happy having someone there all day (especially someone so neat and tidy as our sitter), and it's awkward for Neil as he tries to get stuff done. It's just weird; and I'm embarrassed that I don't have a tidy house. Not even close, and I just don't have the inclination to work on that right now. Perhaps it would be different if I was home all day (but then the kids wouldn't have a babysitter either). In the evenings after the kids go to bed, there are so many other things I want to do (you know what I'm talking about) or need to do (like paperwork) -- and frankly, by that time, I just don't have it in me to do a bunch of physical housework. Anyway, I'm just living with it. My embarrassment, that is. Because I'm not willing to stay up all night picking up stuff and vacuuming! But I digress...
The arrangement we made is that Laurel takes B to our sitter's mom's place in the morning (because it's close to her work) and then our sitter brings B to our house at 8:00 a.m. She takes the girls to school, including Madeline to preschool three mornings a week. The rest of the time she has Georgia and Madeline either at our house or elsewhere, such as the library, museum, or park. She also picks the girls up from school (they walk -- which the girls love), and then she stays at our house with the kids until Laurel and/or I get there. Sometimes Neil picks me up from work and sometimes Laurel does.
The real bonus of this arrangement is that we don't have to get everybody ready and out the door before 8:00 a.m. I just get myself ready, help the kids with a few things like breakfast, and then catch the bus at 7:38 a.m. This is just SO relaxing compared to the alternative. Today, the kids were just rolling out of bed at 7:20 a.m. It was great! No need to rush them. I could really get used to this. And I know Laurel enjoys cutting 15 minutes off her morning drive time too.
Okay, but what about after May 1? Well, it will be fairly similar to the current arrangement, but our sitter will bring B from her place on the east side (her new place is not far from L&B) and she will take Georgia and Madeline back to her place during the school day (except when Madeline is in preschool, she'll do something with Georgia in this part of town). She'll continue to pick up the girls after school, but instead of going to her place, they'll come to our house or go to the park or something -- because it makes no sense for our girls to go over to the east side at 3:30 p.m. And that's how it will go until the end of the school year. I guess they'll go to her place full time in July but Neil will have to take them over there and pick them up. Then we're going on vacation in August and I think that will be the end of it. It would not make sense to continue this into the fall. She needs to be able to get other children (i.e., more income!) and she would not be able to do that and continue hauling our kids across the city (and I'm not thrilled with that arrangement anyway). I understand she'll be living very close to a school, so I'm sure -- I hope -- there will be plenty of opportunities.
Ugh. What craziness. I truly wish everything had been easier and better for our sitter. It's really been much more difficult for her than for us. We'll manage. We're lucky because we have our built-in flexibility (a.k.a. Neil).
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